I know everyone isn’t like me but I love spending as much time as possible with my family! We are a crew that shows up and makes a big deal out of holidays and life celebrations. We bake for days in preparation, we have cocktails and matching pajamas lol we do it!
When my boyfriend (now hubby) told me he didn’t spend every holiday with his family I didn’t understand. What do you mean you are staying here for Christmas? We had different ideas of how the holidays should be spent so we had to figure out what would work for us!
Below you will find 3 tips that helped us conquer the holidays once things really got serious.
Have a Conversation About The Holidays
Talk to your partner about what the holidays mean to you. Be specific about what aspects are important so they understand why you are so Christmas Crazy for instance. Digging a little deeper will not only bring the two of you closer but it will make it easier to develop a plan for the holidays that truly makes you both happy!
Compromise and Be Flexible
It can be hard to let go of the traditions you had growing up, but remember your partner has to do the same thing! Take this opportunity to shape the traditions you want to make for your own little family! A bit of compromising comes along with healthy relationships.
Do what feels right and know that it can change as life happens! Like the tip above, keep the conversation going and check in with each other post-holiday.
Make Your Own Holiday Traditions
We decided some years back that it’s important for us to make our own holiday traditions. So we spend every other year here with just the two of us for the holidays. We do fun things that are special to the two of us where we can connect and get some quality time as the year winds down.
In the future, we may travel with both families and change the way the holidays look all together! We are open and just focused on what makes the two of us happy. Note: I said the two of us. — It’s important, especially once you are married, that you are putting the needs of your partners above, parents or siblings for instance!
We now have a rotating schedule and are discussing how things will look once we start a family! The holidays can be a very sensitive time for people, so be thoughtful in your approach. Keep the two of you at the center of your decision and I’m sure you will come up with something that works for you both!
I can’t wait to see how you all celebrate and the new traditions you make! I know my first time making Thanksgiving dinner without help was a doozy! lol
XOXO, Laya
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